Is our happiness conditional on society's approval?

Is our happiness conditional on society's approval?

I recently received a wedding invitation from one of my distant relatives. "Please remember our kids in your prayers and pour your blessings on them from your home," the lines said at the bottom of the card.

Reading it, I'm curious as to how much has changed in the last year. Expensive weddings have given way to modest family gatherings in which both families become one without the glitz and glamour.

There are no long guest lists, no large stages, and no diverse cuisines. In short, no one needs to put on a show for outsiders to see anything.

Weddings are memorable occasions for two families and, more importantly, for two souls who unite for the rest of their lives.

Why is it necessary to gain societal approval?

"The party should be the finest in town," I've heard people remark. Is it so crucial?

In my own experience, the bride and groom's families seldom seem to enjoy the festivities. They are primarily concerned with entertaining the visitors and collaborating with the event planners and caterers.

I barely saw Acchan and Amma throughout my wedding. The whole two-day event focused on making everyone else happy. Looking back, I'm not sure what the point of all the bravado was. I have no recollection of the stage design, the colour of the flowers used in the garland, or the different delicacies offered. The moments I spent with my Amma, Acchan and Brother, are now the things I try to remember. I wish I had been able to spend more time with them at my wedding. But I'm afraid I can't go back in time.

In the current situation, I believe the lockdown has been a blessing.

My advice to everyone planning a wedding, whether now or later, is to keep everything simple. Have a good time with your family. Let everyone interact and get to know one another. Everyone wants and dreams of a fairy tale wedding, but these are simply fantasies. The true enjoyment comes when you celebrate each ceremony with your closest friends and family.

Society will forget about the party you gave. So get creative and don't allow societal pressure to influence you.

Not to mention, with the money saved, you can always arrange an amazing honeymoon that you will remember for the rest of your life.

The lockdowns will end, and there would be no restrictions, but we could continue with the change if we desired. 

And, of course, hire the finest photographer in town to capture lovely memories for the future.

Enjoy your time with your family!

Dear Readers,

Thank you for reading my blog. I have just expressed my point of view. What do you think about extravagant weddings? Please do share your view in the comment section. 



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