Keep it under Wraps, Period!

"Sshh...Please don't be loud. Do you have a pad? Quietly go and keep it in my bag. Be careful. No one should come to know about it."

Keep it under Wraps, Period!

"Sshh...Please don't be loud. Do you have a pad? Quietly go and keep it in my bag. Be careful. No one should come to know about it."

In India talking about menses is still considered a big taboo...Going to the chemist shop to buy a sanitary pad is a difficult and secretive task for most ladies. Wrapped and covered, the pads are carried in purses not letting anyone get a glimpse of it. Even the shopkeepers are very careful while giving the pads as if they are handing over some critical  information to the lady agents.

There are lots of do's and don'ts which one must follow at home as well. Don't enter the mandir, don't wash your hair, don't make parshad, don't touch pickle...and so on. Why in some religions God is lenient and in some he's not , besides the fact that there is only one God. In one part of the country the onset of a  girl's puberty is a ceremonious affair whereas in another part it seems as if she has done a periodic crime. Whom to believe and what to follow? Our society is very complexed and the varied thinking of  each and every aspect is so damn confusing. And most of these norms are made according to one's convenience and suitability, which they keep on changing from time to time.

Mothers find it difficult to talk about menses to their daughters. But have you ever thought of the dilemma a boy's mother goes through while discussing about it with her son. I have discussed this topic with so many mums, that how to make their sons understand the pain and discomfort one experiences during menses. One day or the other the boys are going to come to know about it through media or friends, then why not from mothers in a sensitive and responsible manner.

All the mothers were little hesistant to talk about it to their sons. I remember one of my friend used to tell her son that those advertisements of sanitary napkins that are being showed on televisions were for absorbing the excess ink from fountain pens! Cmon Plz...They are kids but they have brains. And moreover it is not right to tell such lies to your kids. I encountered the same situation 2 yrs back when my son was 10 but thankfully I chose to tell him the facts and not illogical lies.

The awareness episode started in my house when one day my son saw me holding a pad and said "Maa why are u wearing a diaper, do you wet your clothes at night?". For a second I was frozen thinking, what next?. Is this the time to discuss or should I change the topic? But then I decided to face it.

Very calmly I turned towards him and told him that it is not a diaper it is called a  Sanitary pad. It is used by women every month during periods. I was trying to be selective with my words and cautious about my explanations as I knew that many queries are going to shoot out soon.

I started explaining how a woman's body is different from a man's, the kind of  physical,  biological changes and problems both the sexes face. I felt that I don’t really need to go deep into details but must provide basic information to him.

Boys should be aware of the mood swings occuring due to the hormonal changes in a woman's body. They should know what their sister, mother or any other girl on this earth face. Try to create a feeling of respect and concern in them related to the pain and discomfort a woman goes through. Try to tell them that there is nothing yucky about the menses.

The mother of a son is actually not just raising a boy. She is raising someone's husband and someone's father. It's a big responsibility on every mother's shoulder to raise a good man, a good period-friendly human being. Why we always think about protection of a woman, rather we should think about  creating a world where women are no longer scared.

Be open and friendly with your children. Treat them as responsible mature human beings . They have the capability to understand your problems.

Lets Listen and Lets Talk!!

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