Living with In-laws, Challenges and highlights

When a girl marries a boy, she doesn't marry a boy only but the whole family. Sometimes after a few days of marriage, the boy takes her bride and goes, where he works but sometimes the bride has to adjust with all the members for a lifetime, sounds scary, isn't it?

Living with In-laws, Challenges and highlights

When a girl marries a boy, she doesn't marry a boy only but the whole family. Sometimes after a few days of marriage, the boy takes her bride and goes, where he works but sometimes the bride has to adjust with all the members for a lifetime, sounds scary, isn't it?

Living with in-laws is not an easy task, you have to do lots of compromises and sacrifices. Life becomes full of challenges and especially nowadays when everyone needs his own space and freedom in life. So it's a hard nut to crack.

No matter how good your in-laws are but you have to be conscious all the time. Some of the major issues which are very common in this situation

You have to leave your bed early in the morning, no matter how late you slept but there is a fixed time after that you can't be on your bed.

You can't make anything just anything of your choice, you have to ask others first, what they want to have in breakfast, lunch and dinner.

You can't wear just anything you want to wear. You have to be presentable every time.

You can't go for lunch, dinner anytime, you have to discuss your plan with the whole family then only you can go and instant plans forget it, after any instant plans you will be asked questions like why did you not tell it before? why are you telling now? etc.

And personal space..hard to think. You can not have that easily. You can't spend quality time whenever you want to. Suppose if there is only one television in the living room then you can't even watch t.v. and you can't play music of your own choice.

Expression of love between you both is confined to your bedroom only, you cannot express your love anywhere in the house because there are other people also.

Mutual activities like cooking, exercising is not teamwork but a dream work, in this case, you can't just ask your husband's help in any house chores because then your mother in law would be like, can't you do it alone? why did you call him? he has never done this before.

You can't scold your own kids, there are people who would save him immediately and you would be a villain in front of your child.

Your child-raising capabilities will be questioned all the time. You have to be ready for the advice of your in-laws, how to raise a disciplined kid, which is good for him, etc.

You can't invite your friends to a house party. You would not have that much freedom in front of your in-laws.

Sometimes living with in-laws increases mental issues in women, lack of Independence, lack of appreciation, all-time judgements cause depression and anxiety in women.

There are many other things which a woman faces while living with in-laws and the whole situation becomes a bad dream for a woman

But every situation has some positive aspects also, this is true in this scenario.

You got a helping hand. If you got a kid, parents in law will definitely love to take care of him.

You would have always someone to talk with, you will never feel alone.

The kid will come to know about his grandparents. They always inculcate good habits in their grandchildren.

You can't have to take your child everywhere wherever you go. There would always be someone to take the care of them.

This may not be the dream living situation that you imagined for you, your husband and your kids but still, there are lots of great things having your patents in law with you.

These views are very personal. Some of you might be having a great time with you in-laws. The intention of this blog is not to disrespect anyone's feelings.

But if you are living with your in-laws and feel the same then please comment and share your experiences.

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