Our Equal Shares
In a true married relationship, the independence of husband and wife are equal, their dependence mutual and their obligations reciprocal.
It's so very true, a picture of an Ideal relationship, where there is no You or Me, its about We... But is it Real? Is it what's happening in our so-called 'modern but rigid in views' and 'orthodox' society? We are in the 21st century, still we are chained by our canonical, conservative way of thinking.
A question keeps reiterating in my mind... where is this prestigious rule book of the society? When and where was it published? A humble request. Please do show it once before the doomsday. A husband is supposed to be the breadwinner, provider of the family. A wife to be a house maker, a person who takes care of the kids and everyone's needs. When they trespass each other's proclaimed areas there occurs lot of arguments, misunderstandings, feeling of obligations, etc...
And in this hurricane of blames and accusations our elders and austere society plays a dreadful role. A man when helps his wife at home is given a grand title of 'Joru ka ghulam' by his well wishers, who suddenly pop up from some where. What about those wives who step out of their houses to earn for their families? I think they should be given a title too of 'Miyan ki ghulam'.
A man is made to realize that by helping his better half he is doing an exceptional job, something extraordinary, heavenly. A woman is very rarely given that appreciation as it's assumed and dictated to her from time to time that it's a part of her duties.. What a stigma! If one partner is ready to share responsibilities then the other should lend the same support. It is not just about Equality of Rights or Equality of Responsibilities, it's a matter of Equality of Partnership. Even the restored gospel of Jesus Christ proclaims the doctrine of equal partnership between men and women, here and in the eternities.
It's high time we amend our perception of norms, our unheretical thinking process. We must strive to build a relationship in which we share our tasks and child care responsibilities, work as a team, appreciate and encourage each other, take decisions collectively, adjust and transform our thinking according to our partner's needs and desires. We have to do it first and society will change automatically. Not tomorrow, not today but from this moment on...