You are not alone !
Today, Mental Illness is considered as a stigma/taboo in many societies. There is total lack of awareness and education about its existence. Most new moms suffer in silence and do not seek timely treatment. Happening to a new mom is known to be normal and she is taught to adjust to the circumstances. PPD is real and let us talk in this beautiful group openely and give help and support to those in need. Let us be aware and know how to fight it.
What is Post-Patrum Depression?
It is a depression that women can get after giving birth to her child. Often people misunderstood with term ‘Baby Blues’ and ‘Post-Patrum’ Depression. There is a slight difference. Baby Blues is one of the psychological illness yet doesn’t require medical treatment as they are the most common in first two weeks after giving birth to a child and it decreases later on.
On the other hand, Mom’s with PPD feels extremely depressed, excessive crying, too less or more eating issues, thoughts and emotions to harm herself or baby, feels hopeless, disconnect socially, no pleasure in one’s she enjoyed the most. These symptoms are the one that last longer than baby blues and they are too genuine and intense. People often judge and compare the new mom’s give the statements like ‘she is not fit to care for her baby’. Instead of supporting and being there with her, they don’t miss the chance to offend her either directly or indirectly.
This is one of the mental disease that is not in new mom’s control. On the top of it, those mom’s who has a family history of mood swings, disorder, low self-esteem, immature parents, lack of social support, traumatic events in their family are more likely to suffer from PPD.
Let me grab this opportunity to share my personal experience on this platform. I too developed a strange thoughts, feelings and emotions within me and I used to question myself, Am I a not good mother as I had got extreme mood swings and negative thoughts so much that I won’t enjoy mommy time with my baby?
I logged into Babycente before my child birth. Thanks to Babycentre for guiding me as I followed many tips from it and it acquainted me that such things exists and I am absolutely normal.
Herwith, I am sharing how I coped up with the feeling of sadness, depression, loneliness and came out from the dark zone.
First, I started journalising. It helped me to set my realistic goal. I gave maximum time to unfold the knots of my feelings and emotions. I persistently followed my passion namely writing, reading, singing, creatively preparing scrapbooks. By this way, I unlocked many mind levels. The key here I found is Patience. I gave time to myself to accept, adjust, let go and move on with bad as well as good situations.
The worst time in my life I survived and struggled all alone. Betrayal from near and dear one’s gave a horrible feeling that left me several months isolated and depressed. Understand your closed one’s nature first and keep mental distance with the one’s who are unhappy at your progress/happiness and happy at your lower times. If not kept mental distance with them then that attachment will affect tremendously at a psychological level.
If you are suffering from any of the above symptoms, prioritise to ask for the help. Let household chores left undone. Rest more and bond with the baby. Talk to gynaecologist or psychiatrist or in The Pink Comrade platform as once if it is treated mom will feel better soon and if untreated it can last for many months or years and is harmful to both mom and baby.
One more valuable advise to every mom who suffer from PPD is that’s it’s okay to feel low at times, just stay active and cherish every moment by living in present with your baby and most importantly be hopeful, positive and believe in yourself.