Problems of an Indian daughter with her INDIAN Mother.
I am a mother but before being a mother, I was also a daughter of my mother. We as mothers have often complained about our problems in dealing with our daughters. Mothers try to find out a remote control system to get their daughter’s conduct in line with their own wish. We mothers never thought about the flip side, what are the problems of our daughters with us. The solutions for all problems, lie in understanding a daughter perspective and their problems with us. Following are the 5 problems faced by daughters that we mothers try to overlook:
- Being Overprotective: In order to ensure safety of our children, we tend to kill their exploring zeal, don’t go here and there. This kind of overprotection weakens our daughter and does not help them in growing into an independent woman. Rather then restricting their movement, instruct them about a standard conduct while travelling to ensure their safety.
- Communicate and don’t lecture: Communication is a two-way traffic where both people share ideas and thoughts. Indian Mothers confuses communication with lectures, no mothers lecture is entirely a different thing. Communication demands to listen like a friend, process those thought like a mature and then again talk like a friend, all of them while you being a mother.
- Freedom of Choice: We as mothers are bound to give our daughters the freedom of choice, but we don’t. This is a crucial element; we must ensure that from the beginning we give our daughters this impression that the freedom of choice is always with them. No matter its shopping, career choice or marriage. This freedom alone can ensure that their choices are the priorities and they must go with their own choices without compromising in life.
- Respect their privacy: You are mother don’t act like Sherlock holmes or Agent vinod. Everyone has privacy and the same needs to be respected. They are dependent on you that does not allow you to invade their privacy. If you respect their privacy, they will be more than happy to share their inner thoughts.
- Less Gyan: Too much of everything is bad, you preaching your daughters about your hardships and difficulties, all the time, makes you look rotu. Don’t be a rotu and show them your joyful side share with them your childhood stories and fun pranks. Be casual not that emotional and heavily formal.